Today I Yelled At My Dying Mother

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Posted on May 7th, 2014 by Cindy. Filed in Personal.
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Today I yelled at my dying mother, the one whom I’ve been estranged from most of my life.  She has terminal cancer.

My Dad was right. He said, “You aren’t supposed to talk about money with strangers.” A couple of weeks ago, I had visited my mother.  I thought it went well. A few days ago I had talked with her on the phone. She said she would like it if I’d come back down to visit her again.  I could have just said, “I won’t be down”, but that seemed harsh. Not wanting her to feel that I was rejecting her, I explained that I couldn’t afford to make another trip right away.  She then complained that I didn’t stay long on the last trip.  I told her that I couldn’t afford to stay.

So today my sister calls me and asks if everything is fine.
I said, “Sure”.
She asks, “Are you sure? Because if you need some money, I could probably get a little together and send to you.”

At that, my jaw just hit the floor.

“What?!” I exclaim. “I don’t need you to send me money!”
Little sister said, “Well, it didn’t sound like you, but that was why I was worried. ”
I love my little sister.

It turns out that our mother told my sister that I was asking for money. And that [mother] was angry and telling everyone I had asked her for money.  So I called [mother] up and yelled that I hadn’t asked for money, and I didn’t want her money. She apologized and then said, “I felt guilty that you were spending money that you couldn’t afford to spend on seeing me.”

I restrained myself from saying, “That’s what you feel guilty for? What about abandoning your three little children?”

Instead I said, “You don’t have to feel guilty about that. I chose to visit you. How I spend my money is my business.”

I think that probably made her mad again. I called her back and apologized for yelling.

She said, “It was just a disagreement. Have a nice life.”

I don’t know how to take that statement. But I think I will have a nice life; as nice as I can make it.  I’ll get right on that just as soon as I finish acting like a cry baby.
This extended family stuff is harder than I thought.

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Apologies to my neighbors for my scream.

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Posted on January 6th, 2014 by Cindy. Filed in Personal.
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To all of my neighbors, I apologize for my long bloodcurling scream.
As you may know, we are experiencing some arctic polar weather. Our hot water pipe in the kitchen was not putting out water when I turned on the faucet. Ok. Assuming it was frozen pipe, I crawled into the crawl space with a dim lantern and my hair dryer. Discovered that the air vent in front of the water pipe was wide open and the icy cold air was gushing in. Easy fix. I closed the vent opening. Started to run the hair dryer at the pipe above me and noticed a piece of plastic laying on top of the water pipe.
I wondered why the workmen left a piece of plastic on the pipe. Annoyed, I reached up and grabbed it and pulled it down. The plastic felt weird. As my hand moved across the lantern light, I realized that I was holding a 5-6 ft long snake skin.
So I screamed.
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Why a female should keep her body image to herself

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Posted on August 27th, 2013 by Cindy. Filed in Personal.
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“Ow!” I exclaimed.
“What happened?” my hubby asked with concern, as he walked into the entry hall.
“I needed to unlock the door to take out the trash and dropped the bag of trash. The bag scratched my legs.”
”Not your beautiful legs!” hubby wailed. “Don’t mar your legs.”
I knew his reaction was a little over the top, but…
“Awwww! You think my legs are beautiful?” I asked happily. “That’s so sweet.” I glanced down at my bare legs. “But my legs have dog bite marks and varicose veins and they are starting to wobble, and…” my voice trailed off as I looked closer. “Wow! I really need to shave them.”
I then looked back up at my husband to see a big grin on his face.
“Well, I guess I change my mind about your legs since you’ve hideously scarred them,” he said sardonically.

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